The people who raised you did the very best they could do.
Maybe that was plenty. Maybe it wasn’t quite enough. Maybe it wasn’t enough by a long shot. In the end though, you survived. The thing is, you want your kids to thrive – not just survive.
Do any of these resonate?
- You’re no good at setting limits with your child – you feel anxious and hurt when they are angry with you.
- Your newborn’s crying or older child’s resistance either floods you with uncontrolled anger or a need to escape from them – or you just shut down entirely.
- You’re committed to respectful parenting, but it’s just not done in your culture and you feel isolated and unsupported.
- You’re an overachiever suddenly out of your element as a parent – you end up snapping at your kids, then feeling bad later.
- As a new parent you feel incompetent and not at all like the parent you really want to be.
- You’re not a parent yet, but you’re worried about ‘screwing up’ your future children.
Parenting is hard. You could use some support.
Get curious about what you bring to the parent-child relationship.
You thought it would come naturally, but what really comes naturally is your own experience of being parented. We’re wired to do it like they did it. If you want to do it differently, you have to make different choices. It’s just so hard to not to fall back on your parenting ‘programming’ – especially when emotions are running high.
You want to raise children who feel seen and heard. You want your children to feel emotionally safe and secure in their relationship with you. It’s important to you that your children grow up capable of thinking for themselves, standing up for their choices, speaking up for themselves, and having the confidence to say no when someone crosses the line.
You know that the way you interact with your child sets the stage for these types of positive traits and ways of being in the world. And you also know the path you’re on with your kids right now may not lead them where you hope for them to go.
Seeking therapy to help you on your parenting journey is a vulnerable and courageous thing to do to. It can be difficult to get honest with yourself and tolerate the discomfort that may arise in reflecting on your own history. Yet it is how you can really begin to understand your strengths and your struggles as a parent.
The good news is, you don’t have to do this alone.
I can help you figure out what’s holding you back from being the parent you really want to be.
The most powerful parenting tool you have, and the greatest gift you can give your child is a relationship based on mutual respect, collaboration and trust. Our work together can help you make the positive changes you want to see in your relationship with your kids.
I’m Dr. Nanika Coor.
I am a licensed clinical psychologist who helps parents uncover what they are bringing from their childhoods into their interactions with their own children.
I offer psychotherapy, education, and support to parents in the context of developmentally-informed respectful parenting.
I get excited about working with individuals and couples who value self-awareness, prioritize personal growth, and understand that they are 50% a part of any relationship, and are thus in control of at least 50% of any interaction.
The people I work with are interested in thinking intentionally about the work of parenting, and actively want to do better.
I help those who want more connection and less conflict with their children and have an idea that it’s within their power to make it happen, but don’t quite know what that looks like or how to get there.
I’m eager to help parents get where they want to go.
Ready to get proactive about your parenting? Make an appointment