If you’ve made it to this page, chances are that you want to create a relationship with your child that isn’t quite the same as the relationships you had with your significant early caregivers – but you’re finding that it’s a challenge.
- You remember how bad it felt to be controlled and judged by adults, when what you really wanted was to feel accepted and understood.
- Your parents were so permissive that you grew up with no boundaries at all. You want to parent with more structure, but you worry about being too strict.
- You want to break the cycle of verbal and physical abuse from your own childhood, but it’s a daily struggle not to revert to versions of that abuse when you are triggered by your kid’s behavior.
- You want your kids to respect you, not fear you. But how do you get there?
- You find yourself parenting from a place of anger — explosive and reactive. It’s the only thing you knew or learned growing up. You just don’t understand how respectful/mindful parenting ‘works’ or how to ‘do’ it.
When you show your child that you respect who they are as a whole person–their emotions, their bodies, their perspectives and their convictions–you create an atmosphere of safety in which your relationship can be more connected and joyful.
How does parent therapy work?
In ongoing weekly talk therapy sessions, we will comprehensively explore:
- your childhood experiences with significant caregivers
- the ways in which these experiences and others contribute to your underlying beliefs about raising children
- how those beliefs show up in interactions with your own children
We will put together information about:
- respectful parenting and caregiving
- child development
- brain development
- your relationship history with your own parents/caregivers
- your first-hand knowledge of your unique child
With awareness of these contributing factors, you can understand your parent-child conflicts in new contexts, allowing you to handle them more calmly and confidently, and with more compassion for your child and for yourself.
Parent Therapy does not focus on changing your child. Instead you will begin to feel empowered to change yourself.
Ready to explore new ways of thinking about parent-child relationships? Make an appointment