Therapy

If you’ve made it to this page, chances are that you want to create a relationship with your child that isn’t quite the same as the relationships you had with your significant early caregivers – but you’re finding that it’s a challenge.

  • You remember how bad it felt to be controlled and judged by adults, when what you really wanted was to feel accepted and understood.
  • Your parents were so permissive that you grew up with no boundaries at all. You want to parent with more structure, but you worry about being too strict.
  • You want to break the cycle of verbal and physical abuse from your own childhood, but it’s a daily struggle not to revert to versions of that abuse when you are triggered by your kid’s behavior.
  • You want your kids to respect you, not fear you. But how do you get there?
  • You find yourself parenting from a place of anger — explosive and reactive. It’s the only thing you knew or learned growing up. You just don’t understand how respectful/mindful parenting ‘works’ or how to ‘do’ it.

Sound familiar?

When you show your child that you respect who they are as a whole person–their emotions, their bodies, their perspectives and their convictions–you create an atmosphere of safety in which your relationship can be more connected and joyful.

How does parent therapy work?

In ongoing weekly talk therapy sessions, we will comprehensively explore:

  • your childhood experiences with significant caregivers
  • the ways in which these experiences and others contribute to your underlying beliefs about raising children
  • how those beliefs show up in interactions with your own children

We will put together information about:

  • respectful parenting and caregiving
  • child development
  • brain development
  • your relationship history with your own parents/caregivers
  • your first-hand knowledge of your unique child

With awareness of these contributing factors, you can understand your parent-child conflicts in new contexts, allowing you to handle them more calmly and confidently, and with more compassion for your child and for yourself.

Parent Therapy does not focus on changing your child. Instead you will begin to feel empowered to change yourself.

Who can benefit from parent therapy?

Future Parents

You’re an individual or couple who:

  • will soon be parenting via pregnancy, surrogacy, foster care, guardianship, adoption, etc.
  • plans to have children in the future, but worry about what kind of parent you will be.
  • want to make an intentional plan for future parenting.
  • have unresolved parent-child relationship issues you want to work through before parenting begins.

Current Parents

You’re an individual or couple who:

  • is parenting a child/children aged 0-18.
  • is living separately from your co-parent and want to get on the same page with respectful parenting.
  • is parenting a newborn and needs support regarding respectful care.
  • is interested in making the shift to respectful parenting but don’t know where to start.
  • is struggling with parenting guilt and self-criticism.
  • needs help managing your triggers that arise in interactions with your children.
  • wants to learn how to set developmentally-appropriate limits with confidence, and without using punishment, criticism, threats, guilt, or shame.

Parents of adult children

You’re an individual or couple who:

  • desires a more mutually respectful relationship with your adult children.
  • need a place where you can feel safe being vulnerable about your struggles as a parent.
  • wants to repair the relationship you have with your adult children.
  • is having difficulty transitioning to parenting a young adult who now lives away from home.

Adult children

You’re an individual or couple who:

  • has parents/in-laws who are resistant to your decision to parent respectfully.
  • feels suddenly triggered by your parents/your memories of childhood now that you are parenting your own children respectfully.
  • needs help setting boundaries with your parents/in-laws, particularly where your own children are concerned.
  • is struggling with a lack of support and isolation from your community due to the respectful way you’ve decided to raise your children.

 

Ready to explore new ways of thinking about parent-child relationships? Make an appointment